Healers Aren't Perfect
Hellooo. It’s meee (crooning in my off-tune Adele voice. The Shower Remix version.)
Long time. It’s been quite a year - as I’m sure for you too. Has the Universe continued to challenge your tenacity lately? It has certainly challenged mine.
Many might think a Healer’s life is perfect, but perfection is an illusion. Many might think a Healer knows exactly what to do in every situation, but we seek guidance and advice just like everyone else. After all, WE ARE STILL HUMAN.
In fact, it’s the challenges from which we reap the most invaluable lessons. This is the seed of empathy and connection. The human collective is constantly reaping spiritual lessons as a result of these challenges. Despite how difficult they may be, embrace them. Know that our spirits signed up for the challenges we face in this human life, and we are more than up to the task!
So, what’s happened to me in the last 9 months? Well, long story short:
I entered peri-menopause (hi, 44!)
I was diagnosed with adenomyosis (ladies, don’t Google this, just ask me.)
I had a breast cancer scare
I found love...but, the timing sucked (again!)
I moved - for the first time in 12 years!
And to top if ALL off: my brother died halfway around the world.
Yeah. That happened. All of the above made for some pretty deep, uncomfortable Trans-for-mation, with a capital T.
Here are the Top 3 Lessons I learned:
“Truly precious memories will never vanish even if you discard the objects associated with them.” - Marie Kondo
Possessions come and go. Memories live in the heart.
Parting with material objects can be difficult, especially when sentimental. I bought a snow sled from Target 20 years ago. It carried my family and I down the same snowy hill every year. When I carried it to the dumpster, I cried. A LOT. But it was time to let it go. I thanked it profusely (as in, me at the dumpster talking out loud to a sled) and then asked the Universe to find it a good home. Just for good measure, I tacked on this sign.
We will be remembered for the joy and love we brought to others, not for our material possessions.
Thank your body. Even when it lets you down.
“When you overidentify with the body, it becomes a cage…” - Kute Blackson
Look at your body. Take it in. What a beautiful complex manifestation of cells and molecules in sacred order. It’s the vehicle our spirits occupy in this human life, and thus, it deserves the utmost care. But we are not our bodies. The body is finite. We are eternal. It was difficult for me to come within an inch of the word, “perimenopause,” especially with the societal stigma that comes with the word, as if a woman stops being a woman simply because the uterus starts retiring. Well that’s bullsh-t. Just like nature’s seasons, my body was simply ending a cycle, not letting me down. Plus, my uterus did a fabulous job at cradling two beautiful babies. Thank you, body. You did me proud (still do.)
3. Short-lived love can be just as profound as long term relationships.
“Unfinished, untested, lost love...seems so easy, so childish to those of us who choose to settle down. But actually, it’s the purest, most concentrated stuff.” - Modern Love Season 1, Ep. 2
I’ve been on a search for romantic love most of my life. Married - been there. Divorce - been there too! In love? A few times. Dates? Plenty! But my unrequited search for my life partner still continues. We tend to think of long-term relationships as the only mark of success. Like if we don’t end up spending the rest of our lives with someone, it “didn’t work out.” However, a special connection, regardless of length, can be just as meaningful. If you look closely, there are deep learnings gained from your experience together. The energetic exchange carries us in the present and propels us forward into the great unknown. Give gratitude for the time you walked together on your journeys. And let go with grace and newfound hope.
What lessons have you reaped this year? I’d love to hear about it…